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Hello there, tumblr. the name's scarlet. (not the legal name, but scarlet tends to fit me like a glove.) i'm other, queer, and all things pro-happiness. let's be friends, baby.

You know what? Sometimes, consent is NOT sexy. Sometimes it’s awkward, sometimes it’s annoying, sometimes the person says no when you were really hoping ze’d say yes, and it’s not sexy, at least not right then. And that’s okay. You need to get consent anyway, because it’s the right thing to do, sexy or not.

offendseveryoneanddoesntcare:

wethesibyl:

eateroftrees:

sitwherethelightcorruptsyourface:

This is perfect. Thank you so much. “Consent is sexy” is annoyingly ironic because sometimes the whole point is you are NOT consenting to be sexy, and everyone has to learn to be okay with that. “Sexy” posits a “yes” by default, and don’t we want, like, the opposite of that?

YEAH THAT.

“Consent is sexy” …so what if I decide to say no?

yes. all of it.

Lol, let me consult a dictionary and them tell you why your point makes no sense.

“con·sent [kuh n-sent] 

verb (used without object) 1. to permit, approve, or agree; comply or yield (often followed by to or an infinitive): He consented to the proposal. We asked her permission, and she consented. 2. Archaic. to agree in sentiment, opinion, etc.; be in harmony.”

So, if you don’t see your flaw in logic already, let me go ahead and explain this further. Consent is sexy basically means that if you have consent, it’s sexy. If you make sure the person is CONSENTING, that’s sexy. If you KNOW the answer is YES, then that is CONSENT, and it’s SEXY. If you do NOT have consent, then that is NOT sexy, because if you continue to touch someone sexually without consent, then that is a big no-no, and that is not sexy.

God, people need know what they’re saying before they open their mouths. Or rather, type with their fingers.

Aaah, I knew I had a problem with this post the first time I read it, and it took me a while to figure out why. I second everything Seath said. I just get confused with I look at the above comments.

annoyingly ironic because sometimes the whole point is you are NOT consenting to be sexy, and everyone has (not consent)

“Consent is sexy” …so what if I decide to say no? (not consent)

Consent is sexy because when two people both want to be having sex, then sex is awesome. You guys are pretty much proving the same exact point as the “consent is sexy people” with this post. Not wanting to have sex isn’t sexy. Which is non-consent, and exactly what “consent is sexy people” are trying to get across. I don’t know, I think people are maybe confused.

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americanhighwayflower:

Fucking disgusting

I have a little sister. She does beauty pageants and she goes all out for them, with the professionally done makeup and hair, waxing her legs and eyebrows, spending a ton of money on pretty dresses, etc. She’s twelve, and she’s been doing them on and off for about four years. Recently, I’ve noticed that every time she gets off the stage and she didn’t win first place, she looks like she’s just been kicked repeatedly in the stomach, and then she second guesses everything about her appearance and it upsets me so much. My little sister is beautiful, and I’m not just saying that because she’s my little sister.

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Those are the best things about having kids, is just those everyday, really funny, weird moments that you could never predict, that completely change your mood and, you know, open up your heart. 

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Oh, fuck off… It’s not my job to make you a better man and I don’t give a shit if I’ve made you a better man. It’s not a fucking woman’s job to be consumed and invaded and spat out so that some fucking man can evolve.

What I want is for you to write “fuck me” on your chest. Write it. Do it! And then I want you to walk out that door and I want you to walk down the street, and anybody that wants to fuck you, say, “Sure! Sure! No problem!” And when they do, you have to say, “Thank you very, very much.” And make sure that you have a smile on your face. And then, you stupid fucking coward, you’re gonna know what it feels like to be a woman.

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Jenny Schecter, The L Word (via head-ology)

This was my favorite part in that show. Ah, chills.

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i have a headache.

i am trying to wrap my mind around the concept of pets.

is having pets a form of slavery?

i love my cats.

they’re like my children.

but do they want to be free cats?

i don’t understand anything anymore.